These are some of the cognitive truisms used in ACCI’s workbooks to help participants become “self aware.” Self awareness is the first step to make life changes. Without self awareness or becoming cognitive of ones situation, no progress can be made.

• If you are not happy, it is your fault.
  
• If people don’t believe you, it is because you don’t tell the truth.
  
• If your parents don’t trust you, it is because you are not trustworthy.
  
• If you feel inadequate, it is because you are. No one is perfect.
  
• People who anger you control you.
  
• You didn’t have control over your beginnings, but you do your endings.
  
• If you rely on others for your self esteem, you don’t have any self esteem.
  
• When you do wrong or break laws, you empower others to control your life.
  
• Doing wrong is like spitting into the wind; some of it will always come back on us.
  
• Grow up, stop whining, chill out, let it go, get a life.
  
• People who don’t tell the truth lose their words because nobody believes them.
  
• Not everyone will like you, but that is okay.
  
• Mistake is the name you give to your bad choices.
  
• You can choose to do wrong, but you can’t choose the consequences.
  
• The more you try to fix others, the more you ruin yourself.
  
• No one can put you down unless you give them your permission.
  
• What you do to others, you do to yourself.
  
• A survivor has healed. A victim still has an open wound.
  
• If you feel lonely, hopeless, helpless, rejected and defeated, welcome to life.
  
• The biggest lies are the lies you tell yourself.
  
• If we don’t like ourselves, we will punish ourselves.
  
• If I am not responsible for my life, then who is?
  
• You have the power to heal or hurt, so why not heal?
  
• Our definition of what is right or wrong might be wrong.
  
• It isn’t life that causes our problems, but how you react to them.
  
• Those you love the most can hurt you the most.
  
• Those who feel superior to others are really inferior.