Anger Management News

There are two ways to be; one is responsive and the other is resistant. A responsive person is more open and kind, whereas a resistant person is more closed and mean. Resistant, self deceived offenders commit violence from the deepest sense of who they are.

• Resistant people commit violence in their hearts long before their hands do.
• The sign of violence is not a hit, but a hurt.
• Violence is a choice; it is not merely an act, but a way of being.
• Nonviolence, like violence, is deeper than behavior.
• Self deceived violent people detach themselves from the feelings of others.
• In the resistant way of being, \"I violate others by marginalizing their reality and reducing them to an object. In doing so, I elevate myself. \"
• In the resistant way of being, \"I batter for control without mercy or compassion.\"
• In violating my children, I destroy future generations.
• \"When I violate others, I produce a violence in them that justifies me in violating them.\"
• In the resistant way of being, \"I invite problems into my life, not solutions.\"
• In the violent way of being, \"I portray myself in ways that justify me and makes the wrong I do seem right.\"
• In the resistant way of being, \"I impede the flow of life's light and energy. I repel others and live a life filled with self.\"
• Violence springs from the very essence of who I am, and who I am destroys me.

Any program that doesn't approach people at the deepest level is doomed to failure. Behavior modification and other anger management techniques are just surface fixes that don't penetrate deep enough to make lasting changes. Cognitive restructuring, if done correctly, is a proven intervention that allows individuals to become \"self aware\" and thus more willing to change their personal way of being. Cognitive restructuring isn't a force but an invitation to change. It intervenes at the deepest level where changes can take place.

We are pleased to announce our new Anger Management Workbook. It is truly remarkable and can be used as a home study or groups workbook. It goes where no other Anger Management workbook has gone. It has power to change lives and turn resistant people into responsive ones.